Is This Real Life?!

I know I’ve lost track–and you probably have, too–of how many times somebody said, “Put down your phone, and interact with people in real life.”

Whenever I hear that warning, I try to imagine what it was like 150 years ago, when telephones were becoming popular.   Did the older generation resist the change and wag fingers at the youth for not sending telegraphs?

Did they lecture each other about how lazy and disrespectful it is to make phone calls, rather than jumping on a boat and sailing for two weeks, so they could give important news to their loved ones in person, the proper way?

“Or at least compose a hand-written letter, Johnny! This telephone thing isn’t REAL LIFE!”

“Put it down!”

Seriously, what in the world do we mean by “real life?”

Because, if I may get a bit philosophical for a moment, most of my readers believe (or at least claim to believe) that WE are more than just our bodies.  We are bubbles of consciousness, often called “souls,” who simply use these bodies to pass through material life.

We claim to believe that MATTER, i.e. the physical stuff, is NOT “real life.”

Not only that, but let me also mention that many Astrophysicists believe the Universe itself behaves more like a mind than a machine. In other words, everything we usually think of as “real life”–such as stars and planets and trees and grass and even other people/souls–seem to be about as “solid” and “real” as a thought or dream.

(If you want to read the nerdy Forbes magazine on the subject, click here.  I found it while on my phone one day, apparently avoiding “real life!”)

So what’s my point?

Well, my point is it doesn’t make sense to scold humans for connecting with eachother in whatever ways the Universe allows them to connect. 

Just because they’re interacting with eachother differently than they did 150 years ago doesn’t mean it’s wrong (or “not real”) now.

There are more than 3 billion people using the internet these days–which, to my mind, makes Facebook the biggest mission field on the planet.

Humans plug into the Matrix every day, reading/learning and communicating with each other, and they will keep doing it no matter how often we write blog posts about how they should stop reading our blog and go take their dog for a walk.

We can complain that we hate the Matrix and wish everyone would put down their phone so they can hug a tree “in real life.”

But try to understand the tree is part of The Matrix, too.  

….eh, maybe I totally lost everyone with that last point.  And it’s okay if this is a new idea.

Ultimately, I’m just trying to make a request of my fellow humans to please, please broaden your concept of what “real life” looks like…

Wherever souls are, that’s where we should be:  connecting, interacting, and seeking truth together.

Whether you prefer phone calls or emails…whether you prefer coffee dates or hand-written letters, none of them are more legitimate (“real”) forms of human interaction than others.  It is our sacred duty to  nudge each other toward Truth, while we spin on this tiny, temporary globe together, no matter which form of communication we use.

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P.S. The title of this post is a reference to “David After Dentist,” the hilarious video that went viral several years ago–and all of us saw while scrolling on our phones.  If, by some misfortune, you don’t know what I’m talking about, please do NOT put down your phone and return to “real life,” because you need to Google it.  Go now.

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Even Mothers Can Be Evil

This morning, a relatively well-known “Christian” blogger posted something to Facebook which needs to be exposed for its intentional deception.   You can read the post by clicking here.

But just in case Rachel Held Evans decides to remove it in the future, I’ve taken a screenshot…

 

Children are being ripped from their mothers’ arms!

Rachel has babies on her lap right now–so we should listen to her!

Trump’s Administration is separating families, to deter them from trying to immigrate!

Except, that’s not actually what’s happening at all.

Here’s what the New York Times said, which Rachel must have forgotten to mention:

Protecting children at the border is complicated because there have, indeed, been instances of fraud… Some migrants have admitted they brought their children not only to remove them from danger in such places as Central America and Africa, but because they believed it would cause the authorities to release them from custody sooner. Others have admitted to posing falsely with children who are not their own, and Border Patrol officials say that such instances of fraud are increasing.

Hm…

So there’s a chance “Miran” was just using her son, somewhat like a shield, to get across the border?  And there’s a chance he isn’t actually HER SON at all?

But, golly, why wouldn’t Rachel Held Evans have brought that into the discussion?

 

Maybe, she was too busy holding her newborn and watching her two-year-old play to be fair and balanced…

 

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Listen.

I’ve got an infant on my lap, as well.  My two-year-old is eating sweet potato chips in her highchair next to me.  I love them so much it hurts.

When I try to imagine fleeing war in my home country with the added responsibility of shepherding my babies to safety, my eyes well up with tears.

It breaks my heart to imagine being separated from any of my four kids, for any reason…

…which is why I don’t appreciate when that mental image gets used by horrible, manipulative “Christians” into a LIE for political purposes.

That seems pretty evil to me, Rachel. So here’s some sisterly Christian advice:

Turn off your computer.

Go take care of your babies rather than preying on the emotions of mothers who follow you on social media and don’t have the time and energy to check all of your sources, like I do.

Every time you log onto Twitter or Facebook, you make the world a worse place to be in, because the TRUTH has the power to set people free…and the truth is not in you.

Sometimes mothers choose to have the children ripped from their womb, for convenience.  Sometimes mothers use their babies as human Border Passes into the Land of Free Stuff. And sometimes mothers use their babies to buy credibility on Facebook, when they don’t really have anything less emotional and more factual to say.

Spreading lies doesn’t help any immigrants make it safely across the border with their children, so there’s no reason to be an evil, lying mother in the name of justice.

Why Shouldn’t I Kill You?

Six hours ago, the story broke that someone opened fire in a middle school less than an hour from where I live.

I don’t live in Santa Fe, Texas. (That was last week.)

I don’t live in Palmdale, California. (That was the week before.)

I don’t live in Lexington Park or Parkland or Bentland. (Those were earlier this year.)

I live in Indiana–where two people were shot in a school six hours ago.

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Most of the people in my newsfeed are saying: “This has gotten too close now!”

“Where will it end?”

“What should we do?”

And I completely agree with those who are telling parents it starts at home.

A man named Cody Jefferson posted to Facebook this week with the headline “Why My Kids Won’t Be Shooting Up Schools,” and he outlined the importance of teaching kids self-discipline and teamwork.   (You can read his post by clicking here.)

I don’t have a single problem with anything being said by the many people who believe it’s a parent’s job to teach their children the value of human life.

I just want to take it a step further, parents: 

Can you explain to your children why?

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Jefferson said: “Our boys need to understand the rules of the game and respect boundaries.”

AMEN!

But, why should they play by the rules?

Jefferson said: “I will not leave [my son] to find a version of himself and figure out what ‘man’ means to him.”

AMEN!

But, why should his son care what “man” means to anyone else?

Jefferson said:

I will TEACH you how to lose and learn.

I will TEACH you how to dream and work.

I will TEACH you how to add value and make money.

I will TEACH you how to treat a woman.

I will TEACH you what a gun is and what it’s for.

I will TEACH you what it is to be a PRESENT FATHER.

I will TEACH you what it is to be a MAN.

And you, son, will be the PROTECTOR of yourself, your family, and your community….

That’s beautiful! Wonderful! Another hearty AMEN from me!

But teaching a boy “how” is only half the equation.

The very last line of Jefferson’s speech is the most important of all. He writes “because that is who we, as men, are called to be.”

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Friends, our children go to school and learn they evolved, from nothing, for absolutely no reason.   The word “purpose” is considered religious and irrelevant.

They’re encouraged to create meaning for themselves, and not to ask WHY in the world “meaning” is a human need in the first place.

So then, when those little blobs of excited chemicals feel angry and worthless, they start shooting at other little blobs of excited chemicals, and our Humanist society looks around, scratching our collective heads, yelling, “This shooting thing is getting out of hand!”

Do you have answers for why those young animals shouldn’t kill each other?

I talk with Atheists all the time–and they agree point for point on what the problem is.  But go ahead and ask them to explain “why.”  Just ask.  Eventually they will say you’re insane just for having that question, and they will advise you to see a shrink.

(That ought to make a depressed teenager feel even better about himself, amiright?)

Four years ago, I suffered an episode of depression/anxiety that had me holding my husband’s gun in my hand and wondering why I shouldn’t use it on myself.

Would you have been able to give me an answer for why I shouldn’t?

Parents, do we plan to give the reason “because I said” for the rest of our children’s lives?

That’s essentially the Atheist argument, you know? They change “because I said” into “because WE said,” as if the opinion of a million humans is more powerful and authoritative than the opinion of one.

Don’t shoot…just because?

Just because I said so?

 

Our public schools have nothing to offer our hurting, questioning children, because “religion” isn’t welcome.  By law, teachers are allowed to tell students WHAT to do, but they can’t give solid, soul-quenching reasons why.

For my part, I would love to help parents think through this, so they can help their children process it as well.

Why shouldn’t an angry male mammal thin his herd a little, by shooting in a nearby school?

Until a child’s education includes a good answer to that question, this problem will only get worse.

The Marriage Counseling System

When people are flabbergasted and frustrated, they often say, “I have no words!”

I experience the opposite… swirling, conflicting emotions provide me with LOTS of words.

I’ll attempt to catch some of them here.

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When I had postpartum depression in 2013, I barely functioned. I sought biblical counseling, to explore ways I could bring glory to God, despite feeling completely out of control.

My grandma also recounts a time she worked with a biblical counselor, as she was struggling with questions related to God and truth.

In both of those cases, it was personal.

Our problems were spiritual.

And both of us found the counselor’s perspective helpful.

But I can’t say the same about my experiences with the Marriage Counseling System, which seems to be lob-sided. 

I’m afraid The System has cultivated a very popular brand of “counseling,” which is wife-centric and exists mainly to help women recruit allies as we nag our husbands…even when our husband’s biggest failure is something like leaving dishes in the sink.   (No, seriously, click that underlined link to read later. It outlines the emotional abuse being perpetuated against husbands, with full consent of our culture. I call the phenomenon “Battered Man Syndrome.”)

Anyway, I’ve read books, aimed at women because we’re the ones who spend the $$$$.

I’ve read blogs written by the “experts,” which are also aimed at women because we’re the ones sharing those articles passive-aggressively on social media.

I’ve watched the video lectures (*cough* Joel and Kathy Davisson *cough*)–aimed at telling husbands they’re responsible for their wives’ sinful behavior.

And all of these resources made my marriage worse. 

In fact, the first few years of marriage I worried something was actually, physically wrong with me, because the more I followed the “biblical” advice I was given, the more intensely I despised my husband… for no discernable reason.

 

Let me be clear: my goals were noble.   I wanted to have a strong, stable marriage.  And, since I had grown up in church and was attending a Christian college, I had the Marriage Counseling System engrained in my head.

“Seek wise counsel” was Step #1.

Unfortunately, as a young wife, I simply didn’t realize how much UN-wise counsel is available in the Christian Counseling System.

So I started reading everything a good wife should.

I read “Wild at Heart” and “Captivating”  (by the Eldredge’s).  I read “For Men Only” and “For Women Only” (by the Feldhans).  I read “When God Writes your Love Story” by Eric and Leslie Ludy.

Seriously, I can’t even remember all the names of all the Christian Couples who were trying to help me lead my husband toward better leadership.

And my inexplicable dissatisfaction grew more and more…

I thought it was because Luke didn’t digest all of this relationship material with me. After all, the more I learned, the less Luke was interested in learning with me. He literally wouldn’t read any of those books! He wouldn’t come and attend Chapel with me, three days a week, like I had humbly requested. He wouldn’t listen to my stream-of-conscious worrying about our marriage for hours.

I got more and more frustrated, because I felt like I was carrying all the weight, and he wasn’t doing anything. He always had more important things to do!

Of course, I understood when he needed to work or study for school.  But, sometimes, he played video games or watched football! (Can you believe it?!)  He watched football even though I told him to show me he cared more.

So, after thinking and praying for a while, I would insist that Luke and I have “conversations” (because the Christian Marriage Counselors who were part of the Christian Marriage System told me that’s what I was supposed to do). But those “conversations” quickly became arguments, and I would yell or cry or storm out of the house and drive away dramatically. Often I did all of the above.

And then Luke would go to sleep, and I would be even sadder and angrier, because he didn’t even care about our marriage enough to stay up with me! (What a jerk!)

Most of the time, he would be completely over it the next morning, which was just more proof that I was the spiritual one.

So, in my hurt and frustration, I would spend the next few days dropping hints that he still had a problem to solve. You know?  Like slamming things around and making dinner for myself without offering him any. And if he didn’t respond, then I would have to escalate to making short, snippy remarks, because he was still failing to acknowledge how wrong he was…for….something…

I kept up this pattern for about two years, until both of us were miserable.

I wanted him to talk with me, but not out of obligation. I wanted him to WANT to have conversations with me, and I would keep him up late at night begging him to want me more.  But, weirdly, Luke didn’t want to share space when I was behaving that way. He didn’t seem to enjoy being told to fix vauge stuff that was outside of his control anyway.

He didn’t like being responsible for my emotions.

If I had kept reading the same advice from the Marriage Counseling System, who knows where we would be?

But luckily, in 2010, a friend gave me something to read that actually helped.  It started with a blog post in which the author wrote this:

“Modern Christians have radically reframed marriage from the way the Bible does.  Where the Bible shows the husband in headship and the wife as submissive, modern Christians have turned this upside down.  The re-framing is so pervasive that most Christians have no idea that it has even occurred…

Husbands loving their wives has been transformed into a command that he make his wife feel loved.  This subtle transformation turns a straightforward biblical command into an impossible task.  After all, the wife herself is the only one who can pronounce whether she feels sufficiently loved.  Only she can define the very meaning of the word love, in this context.  As a result, Christian husbands are now held hostage.  For example, if he watches a football game instead of doing what she wants him to do he isn’t making her feel sufficiently loved and is in violation of the biblical command.” 

It hit me like a ton of bricks because I was unintentionally doing that! (Also, because football was one of the things that used to trigger me.)

I had great intentions, and I was only trying to tell Luke what the Christian Counseling System had told me. But, it turned out I was expecting Luke to get behind me, whenever I FELT something unpleasant, which is not what the Bible says at all.

Thank God he sent a few wise counselors my direction, to calmly explain there’s a difference between loving me and jumping through my hoops until I FEEL loved.  

If “leadership” means being kept awake all night until I allow him to sleep–then Luke is no longer leading.

I am.

Or, more specifically, my shifting emotions are leading.

We understand the problem more clearly when we relate it to parenting. I can recognize my children’s emotions, but I cannot let them control me. 

Why?  Because it destroys the entire family when those little balls-of-passion take over.

Can you imagine the damage we would be doing to children, if we started giving their parents the same terrible counseling given by Dr. Richard L. Strauss?

“The God who created these tremendous emotional needs in women intends that husbands should meet them…Headship is not some masculine doctrine cleverly designed to bolster the husband’s sagging ego. Headship involves the husband’s solemn obligation to establish an atmosphere of love in which the basic needs of his wife are fulfilled—an environment in which she is free to grow and develop into all that God wants her to be. Her submission will then be the voluntary response to his loving leadership.”

Parents, do you determine whether you’re loving and leading your children properly by watching to see if they volunteer to follow you?

When a child refuses to submit, is that MOM AND DAD’S fault?

I would answer a firm “no” to both questions…  There are much better ways to measure effective leadership than to ask the kids to vote on it.

Therefore, if you’re seeing a counselor who tells you “leadership is when you allow the emotions of your wife and children to lead,” find a different one.

That itty bitty little twist of Scripture made me miserable for years, until I realized the Marriage Counseling System was wrong.

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For more “words” about the terrible marriage advice being given in church settings, please click here:   your wife’s affair is your fault.

 

It Starts At Home

Parents know they are responsible for educating their children. But the question of how often leads to debates…

Well, maybe “debates” isn’t the best word. Debates go back-and-forth, with structure and substance.  What often happens with the topic of education is a homeschool mom writes a testimony about how happy she is with her decision to education her kids at home, and unless she includes a number of disclaimers, then a public-school mother shows up to get defensive about it.

But I digress.

DISCLAIMER: This blog post is NOT about how all families should keep their kids home all day.

Actually, it’s about how stable families already do a version of “homeschool,” to a certain extent (even if their kids go to public school during the day).

And, building on that, we need to have an “It-Starts-At-Home” attitude about other institutions as well.  

Thirty or forty years ago, the homeschool movement was in its infancy.  Pretty much the only families drawn to the idea were hippies and hyper-conservative religious fanatics with 170 kids.

As time has marched on, however, this has changed. Enrollment of students in a home-based school has grown steadily since 1999, even as enrollment in private schools has fallen.

Homeschoolers now make up approximately 3.4% of school-aged children, which is 1,770,000 students from all sorts of backgrounds, being taught by their relatives or close friends for a whole host of different reasons.

I asked a poll-question on Facebook about why my friends have chosen to homeschool, and I got many of the standard answers:

-Freedom to go at the child’s pace (whether slower or faster than public classrooms)

-Special needs, such as a social disorder or learning disability

-Freedom to travel

-Ability to pursue a sport or other special-interest

-Closer family ties

Again, I am not saying anyone who sends a child to public school worships the Devil. Many homeschool families work closely with public schools, including choosing full-time public education for one or two of their kids, while keeping the others home full-time.

I’m only reporting what those who are homeschooling have said about the benefits.

These families tend to be self-starters with a love of independence.  They tend to have a perspective that “if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself,” and they’re offended by the idea that Big Government can handle individual issues.

In fact, go ahead and try suggesting to a homeschooler that a teaching degree is necessary to be an effective educator. Just try.  🙂

Most completely reject the idea that educating can only be done by a degree-carrying “professional.”

Homeschool parents see themselves as the experts on their own kids. Period. Full stop.

That’s why I plan to lean on the homeschool community, as I start criticizing other institutions that need to remember “it starts at home.”

Namely the Institutionalized Church and Institutionalized Social Work and Institutionalized Counseling all need to be re-examined for their effectiveness, the same way homeschoolers have examined the Institutionalized School, and found it lacking.

Personally, I’m tired of being told that “professionals” are those who have spent thousands of dollars obtaining a degree in Divinity or Social Work or Psychology/Counseling.

I’m tired of the assumption that THOSE near-strangers are the “experts” about things happening in my own family.

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If I try to unpack all of my thoughts on this subject in a single blog post, it will get way, way, too long.   But if you want to read a few things I’ve already written in a similar vein, here are some links:

-My criticism of “Professional Ministries” (click these blue words to read it).  I argue that ALL OF US have been called to teach and help the poor and counsel. Which means deferring to the “professionals” becomes an excuse.

-Problems with racism in the public education system. 

-Problems with lowering standards in public education systems.

-And a list of things Christians expect their pastor to do for all of us, instead of asking whether we’re supposed to handle it ourselves…

I want to hear your feedback in the comments!  I’m especially interested in the perspective of you self-starting, tradition-bucking homeschoolers!

What goes through your mind when I say things like “Homechurch” or “Home-Counseling?”  Would the phrase “It Starts At Home” apply to those industries, too?

I am sure I will write about this again…

To My But-People

I said something to a friend the other day that I wanted to expand.

Thank you to every single one of you who listen to my theories and opinions–and still feel comfortable adding a “but” to balance me out.

Thanks for disagreeing respectfully.  Thanks for understanding me and showing me new perspectives.

Thanks for smoothing my rough edges and pulling me back toward the center, when my passion threatens to allow my pendulum to swing too far in any one direction.

I’ve met plenty of “yes-men,” and their support feels good for a moment. But the real growth happens when I do life with you “But-People.”

I certainly don’t feel like thanking you all the time.  (Sometimes disagreement feels like being misunderstood. Sometimes I just FEEL like being told I’m right, with no “buts”.)

I don’t take time to reflect every day, on how valuable you are to my life.

But I reflected this week, so I wanted to speak up.

Thank you for being thoughtful and careful and honest with me!  

Bethany, Sarah, Jasmine, Tabby, April, Amanda, Allison, Grandma Nancy…I can’t even name all of you who occassionally say something like, “Uh, I think you’re a little off there, Dude.”

Yours are the voices I hear when I’m thinking through a new idea.  I try to guess how you’re going to respond, as I’m writing my newest, controversial, probably-overstated blog posts. And it makes my writing better.

It makes ME better.

“Yes-Men” are a dime a dozen.  But, my “But-People” are priceless.

Seriously! I’m thanking God for you today.

With affection,

Amanda

 

A Letter To My Brothers (in Response to Beth Moore)

Dear Brothers in Christ,

By now, perhaps you’ve read the letter that was written by Beth Moore a couple of days ago, on the subject of misogyny in the church. But, if not, please click the hyperlink above, and then come back to me.

I’ll wait…

Did you read it?

Ugh. I hope you’re not ignoring my request just because I’m a woman!

(No, seriously, please read Beth’s letter, because mine is in response… and, I tend to think response letters make the most sense if you’ve read what they’re responding to.)

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I know there are many women who would agree with Beth that disrespect for women is a big problem among churches. And there are very few men willing to stick their necks out to disagree with those women…even if they honestly think their sisters are misdiagnosing the root of the issue.

Many of you, brothers, would rather stay quiet than risk being “disrespectful.” Plus, no one wants to be accused of making “fried chicken” out of a female leader. (That’s a reference to Beth Moore’s letter, which you recognized because you clicked on the link above, I’m sure.)

Hopefully Beth didn’t start her letter with the “fried chicken” statement as a preemptive move, in an attempt to insulate herself from necessary criticism, because I’m going to criticize her anyway.

I think Beth Moore is misdiagnosing the root of the problem.

Please don’t misunderstand. I believe she truly has encountered many disrespectful men. And although half the examples she gave seemed merely “awkward” rather than “sinful,” I have absolutely no doubt that men have quoted Scripture about female leaders in order to shut Beth Moore down.

I simply mean to agree with Beth’s statement that objections on biblical grounds are “just an excuse,” and that the root of the issue is something more complicated than dismissiveness toward women, specifically.

I believe her critics would look for other ways to shut her down, even if she weren’t a woman, because her womanhood is inconsequential. Most irrational critics are wrestling against anyone who speaks the Truth…not against a certain identity group.

Like Beth, I’ve been dismissed for a whole host of ridiculous “reasons”–ranging from age to income level to the tone of my writing. I’ve been dismissed for being white and dismissed for being married to a man (as opposed to another woman), and I’ve been dismissed repeatedly just for calling myself a Christian.

That’s how I’ve come to realize it’s not my age or eye-color or marital status which causes certain people to block me. NOR IS IT THE FACT OF MY WOMANHOOD.

The problem runs much deeper than that.

My experience with irrational, truth-adverse, dismissive jerks (many of whom are female themselves) has forced me to come up with a more-likely explanation than simple “misogyny.”

And this is what I’ve discovered:

It’s not WHO’S speaking that bothers most people. It’s WHAT they’re saying.

I’m willing to bet–even if Beth’s name was “Bart”–she would be surprised and frustrated to discover those men she thought were misogynists were still dismissing “Bart” for any lame reason they could muster.

They’re not miso-gynists. (Haters of Women.) They’re miso-alethinos. (Haters of Truth.)

MEE-Soh-Al-e-THEE-Nohs. I just made it up, after Googling “Greek word for Truth.” But I like it!

Being dismissive of TRUTH is the real root of the problem.

So that’s why I’m writing to you, brothers, to insist that you’re not more responsible than we sisters are, for the bad behavior of the misoalethinos.

You shouldn’t feel any more guilty than women do, about the fact that Churches have a festering problem with Truth-Denialism.

People are building walls and cutting each other off, to be sure! Sometimes men are cutting off women! And if you were as well-known as Beth Moore, you would be unfairly dismissed, too. (Go ahead and drop a “pro-life” comment on Planned Parenthood’s social media page some time. See how quickly you get dismissed for your gender!) 🙂

But the point I’m making is that even when women say men can’t have opinions about abortion, it doesn’t come from a hatred for men specifically. Not really. They have husbands and fathers and brothers and sons they are very respectful toward.

Most of them probably supported Bernie Sanders wholed-heartedly! (Ha!)

The problem with the Pro-Choice crowd isn’t really Mis-Andry (Hatred for Men). It’s a case of Miso-alethinos. (Hatred for Truth.)

Brothers, you don’t need to spend time apologizing to me and other females because you “don’t know what it’s like” to be a woman dealing with this special plight. You understand just fine.

You, as a Truth-Seeker, already have the ability to understand what it’s like to stand with me against those who want to dismiss all of us.

Misoalethinos come in all sorts of identity groups, and they will attack you no matter which one you belong to! You and I are in this together.

I wish Beth Moore would think a little deeper about the war we’re waging, instead of giving into the simplified explanation. I’m saddened that every cultural issue gets reduced to black vs. white, liberal vs. conservative, or male vs. female. (It smells of intellectual laziness to me.)

Misoalethinos are becoming a huge, culture-wide problem! But letters like Beth Moore’s are causing us to get distracted, hacking at tree leaves, instead of focusing on what really matters at the base. It would be equally misguided if my children got into a disagreement on the playground with a bunch of kids who happened to be wearing green shoes, so they wrote a letter to green-shoe wearers, asking them to help tackle the problem of green-shoe meanies.

The shoes are inconsequential. In fact, even if the meanies on the playground were MAKING FUN OF MY KIDS’ SHOES, the problem still has nothing to do with the footwear of any of the kids involved. Am I making sense, brothers?

If you only remember one thing from this post, just please stop apologizing on behalf of other people who happen to be wearing green shoes, like yours.

Meanwhile, I hope I haven’t made “fried chicken” out of Beth Moore. But she really is tackling the wrong problem right now. We should be focused on seeking Truth together–not focusing on the gender of those who are tearing us down.

With Sisterly Love,

Amanda

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Update: my dad and I discussed this further toward the middle of this podcast… http://branyancomedy.libsyn.com/incels-girl-scout-cookies-and-beth-moore?tdest_id=458261