There really isn’t a good reason to “block” someone on social media. Ever.
People who “block” others think they’re putting up a boundary to protect themselves from the other person–because the other person is just so stupid or mean or wrong or generally tiresome that they have no choice except to build a wall.
But your mother sees things differently.
If I hear word that you cut ties with another person (unless that person poses a physical threat to you) then I will not blame THEM.
If/when you resort to blocking someone who used to be a friend, I’m going to have a talk with YOU, because I want to know:
What’s going on in your head that you’re not able to handle the stupidity or meanness or wrongness of another person, without permanently hiding?
I’ve never “blocked” anyone on social media because I have the ability to ignore what I can’t control or confront what I think is wrong. And, if you don’t feel strong enough to do either of those things, then we can talk about building up a tolerance until you get there.
But hiding from different views isn’t healthy. It demonstrates that you can’t control your emotions, so you need technology to do it for you…
…by making people disappear.
You may think you’ve solved a problem. But, a person can’t be “cured” of their road-rage if they only drive on a closed course. And likewise, you’ll never be “cured” of your sensitivity if you simply block everyone who triggers you.
That’s not a healthy solution to the root problem.
There are ways to deal with annoying, rude, and even downright HATEFUL individuals, without having to run away, dear children. And that’s what I pray you will learn to do…because you’ll never be able to hide from them all.
- Ignore what you can’t control. OR
- Confront what you believe is wrong.
When you feel that you have no choice but to block someone, let’s have a conversation about why… (We can do that as long as we leave the door to communication open by not blocking each other. See how this works?)
If you think I’m wrong, let me know. Or ignore me.
But you have no reason to “block” me–or pretty much anyone–ever. 🙂
As always, I love you immeasurably.