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Houston Woman Shocked that Some People are Less Christian than Osteen

Most people know Joel Osteen as the botoxed preacher of a heretical gospel who leads a megachurch in Houston.

“He’s barely a Christian,” remarked local resident, Alice Underwater.  “His Theology is shallow. His books are shallow. His tweets are shallow.”

That’s why Alice was surprised to get more help from Osteen’s church than from the people Tweeting about his church. 

“I got diapers and formula from Lakewood Church yesterday, ” Alice reports. “If I had to choose between that and my Christian friend’s angry-tweets at Joel Osteen, I would say I appreciate the diapers slightly more.”

Christians from outside the Houston area have been weighing in:


8.29.17 Criticism for Osteens (#1)

8.29.17 Criticism for Osteens (#2)

After reading these comments, Alice Underwater responded, “Well, I’m not sure what a ‘proper portion’ of Joel’s wealth would be…but I didn’t get any diapers from Kim…and I did get some from Joel’s church… so….”

When asked whether they have experience organizing and maintaining a pop-up shelter, Osteen critics gave answers such as, “Those are just details” and “God would provide…somehow.”

Meanwhile, Alice continues struggling to wrap her mind around what happened.

“If you asked me who talked about helping flood victims the most, I would say ‘Osteen’s critics did,’ but I just can’t believe some of them actually DID less than him! It takes a lot of work to beat him in the hypocrisy department.”

Later she added wryly: “My baby can’t eat your outrage, folks.”

When a Liberal Criticizes Liberalism, You Listen!

It’s not often I deliver good news on this blog. But, in all seriousness, this article gives me hope.

If liberals are starting to understand what’s wrong with American Liberalism, maybe we can work together after all!

Mark Lilla writes:

“One of the many lessons of the recent presidential election campaign and its repugnant outcome is that the age of identity liberalism must be brought to an end.

..the fixation on diversity in our schools and in the press has produced a generation of liberals and progressives narcissistically unaware of conditions outside their self-defined groups, and indifferent to the task of reaching out to Americans in every walk of life.”

Honestly, I can’t even imagine a Democratic Party without identity politics.

But, if liberals will listen to Mark Lilla, it could change everything.

Lilla highlights the same topics I’ve tried to address on my blog.

For example, he suggests that focusing on identity in education stunts our children (especially minorities):

“At a very young age our children are being encouraged to talk about their individual identities, even before they have them.

By the time they reach college many…have shockingly little to say about such perennial questions as class, war, the economy and the common good. In large part this is because of high school history curriculums, which anachronistically project the identity politics of today back onto the past, creating a distorted picture of the major forces and individuals that shaped our country…

When young people arrive at college they are encouraged to keep this focus on themselves by student groups, faculty members and also administrators whose full-time job is to deal with — and heighten the significance of — ‘diversity issues.'”

That’s precisely what I tried to describe in my post about how liberal education is to blame for “Systemic Racism.

Lilla also says the almost-unthinkable when he compares (as I did) liberal identity groups with the KKK:

“Liberals should bear in mind that the first identity movement in American politics was the Ku Klux Klan, which still exists. Those who play the identity game should be prepared to lose it.”

It’s a fabulous article, all the way around.

(Er, provided you don’t glance at the comment section, where Mark Lilla gets torn apart by liberals who aren’t quiiiiiiite ready to let go of their identity obsession just yet.)

He wraps up his observations by making some suggestions about what liberals should do in the future:

“We need a post-identity liberalism, and it should draw from the past successes of pre-identity liberalism. Such a liberalism would concentrate on widening its base by appealing to Americans as Americans and emphasizing the issues that affect a vast majority of them. It would speak to the nation as a nation of citizens who are in this together and must help one another. “

Needless to say, I agree.

Of course, eventually Liberals will need to get around to explaining precisely HOW they will make their visions a reality…

…and that’s where the real differences between parties will be revealed.

The reason Democrats have relied on identity politics for this long is to distract from their truly terrible, Big Government “solutions” that ultimately cause more problems.

If we take identity liberalism out of the equation, then we’ll be debating national issues on ideas alone–and the Small Government side will win every time.

But that’s probably a topic for another day.

In the meantime, I’m thrilled that some liberals have at least attempted to understand why Trump won, and to take blame where it’s due.

Another liberal who has spelled it out is Jonathan Pie. He went on this profanity-laced tirade just days after Trump was elected: “The Left Did This; It’s My Fault!” …seriously, language warning. But he makes good points:

“It’s time to stop ignoring your opponents, or worse, trying to silence them. It’s time to stop banning people from speaking at Universities. It’s time to stop thinking that re-posting an article on your Facebook feed is political engagement. [It’s time to stop thinking] that banning a gymnast…because he insulted someone’s religion actually achieves something. (And, sorry, when did the Gymnast association start thinking it was appropriate to enforce blasphemy laws?)… Reading the Guardian doesn’t make you a liberal. Retweeting Green Peace doesn’t lower your carbon footprint. And if my mansplaining is triggering you, then you can either F*&^ off to your safe space or you can engage and debate me and tell me what I’m getting wrong…”

Yes, I say!


When liberals start criticizing liberalism, the others should listen…

God Made Your Child Bad

Just as people with illnesses can’t help their bad behavior, it seems there’s another category of humans who MUST do what is wrong, because of the way their bodies work…

It’s children!

This Upworthy Article explains there are ten ways kids really aren’t as “naughty” as parents think:

“Even though it’s annoying when a child picks your tomatoes while they’re still green, cuts their own hair, or makes a fort with eight freshly-washed sheets, they’re doing exactly what they are supposed to be doing…”

Whew! What a relief!

My brat is SUPPOSED to be a brat!  🙂

The list of things that aren’t really “naughty” includes being unable to control their impulses and being defiant.

Of course, most parents wouldn’t accept the idea that God MAKES their children misbehave.  So professionals are using a different tactic to make their theory easier to swallow. They simply change the definition of the word “naughty.”

Thus, pop-psychiatry says bad behavior really isn’t “bad” at all–since it’s normal:

“Many of kids’ so-called ‘bad’ behaviors are actually normal developmental acts of growing up.

When we recognize kids’ unwelcome behaviors as reactions to environmental conditions, developmental phases, or our own actions, we can respond proactively, and with compassion…

What parents can do: Remind ourselves that kids can’t always manage impulses (because their brains aren’t fully developed)…”

So, you see?

It’s not the kids’ fault.

They can’t help it!

They’re just working with the brain they were given!

Just one question, dear reader…

Who made their brain?

I predict there will come a time in our culture where NOBODY is held accountable for the choices they make.

Some adults have “mental illnesses.” Others have “highly sensitive personalities.”  Others grew up in poverty or had histories of abuse…  Plus, as we’ve seen, everyone under the age of four must throw things when they’re told not to throw them–because “brain development.”

Therefore, all of these circumstances explain when people can’t control their impulses and act defiantly. We can release everyone in jail and prison, because nobody really chooses to do wrong!

This reasoning is called “determinism,” and it’s just a fancy word for “We don’t really have free will.”

According to Determinism, all of us are products of our environments–including how we were raised and the chemicals that are swirling around in our bodies.

Sometimes Determinists make silly, self-contradicting videos, like this one, about how humans only THINK they control themselves. (Yes, he made the choice to create a video about humans having no choice. Think about that for a second.)

Anyway, the belief that we have no free-will comes logically from Atheism, because Atheists believe everything started, by accident, with a chemical reaction.

Many Atheists actually come right out and admit there’s no such thing as good-and-bad or right-and-wrong, except for popular opinion:

“There is no objective moral standard. We are responsible for our own actions….”

“The hard answer is it’s a matter of opinion.” –David Silverman, Atheist

But–there is a Theological version of Determinism, too.

Theological Determinism develops when religious people swallow secular opinions about the brain/body (and about what’s “right/wrong”) instead of thinking through the consequences…

We may believe in God.

But, do we believe humans have the ability to choose obedience to Him? Or do we think they must obey their selfish impulses?

Does it make sense that God created children with “underdeveloped brains” who have to disobey their parents?

I’m just not so sure about that…


In my own household, I know my kids will misbehave at times.

But that’s not the same as believing they HAVE to be bad. And it’s certainly not the same as changing words like “bad” and “naughty” to use the more pleasant word “normal,” instead.

Yes, it’s normal, because humans are normally fallen and self-absorbed and enemies of Holiness.

Yes, children need tons of patience and a safe, loving family, while they learn the ugly truth about their own sin nature.

But, they must learn that truth eventually: being normal isn’t good.

Even if my children CHOOSE to throw ugly tantrums in the middle of the store for the rest of their lives, I will love them fiercely…

…but I will never believe God trapped us in bodies that make us do what we know is wrong. 

Ultimately, humans are more than brains-on-legs.

This is why parents must be skeptical–and ask questions–when listening to popular opinions (of Determinists) who believe brains control humans, rather than the other way around.

The $100 question is this: Are you saying God  made my child bad?

Stop Kicking Luke Skywalker!

If you’re not familiar with the details of the Galactic Civil War (from the Star Wars series), let me fill you in.

What was once a “Republic” slowly became an “Empire” after the Clone Wars–as Supreme Chancellor Palpatine started getting too big for his britches. (He told citizens he only wanted to make the realm safer, as he amassed more and more power for himself.)

Pretty soon, instead of Chancellor, Palpatine was officially an “Emporer.”

And he would have gotten away with it, too!

…If it weren’t for the courage of a band of Rebels, who fought for the freedom of the people to govern themselves rather than be ruled by an all-powerful, centralized power.

They were under-equipped and grossly outnumbered.  But… (*spoiler alert*) The Rebels won!

Why am I telling you this?

Well, it easily could have been the story of the American Civil War–except the Rebels in that story surrendered.

And that’s why Americans–one hundred and fifty years later–are doing THIS with Rebel statues:


If history is written by the victors, then the North’s version of What Happened is the one we know today. But what if The Rebels had won? (HBO’s TV series “Confederate” imagines this scenario…) Would we be tearing down statues of Ulysses S. Grant and Abraham Lincoln?

What actually happened was, the Rebels were unable to rally and conquer, as they were in Star Wars.  So, Robert E. Lee decided the extreme loss of life wasn’t worth resisting the top-down rule of Federal government any longer. He wanted his soldiers to return to civilian life–as united Americans–rather than be wiped out entirely.

And the rest of the Confederate Generals soon followed…submitting to the Empire…and trading some freedom for some peace… 

Perhaps things would have been different, and the Rebels would have fought to the bitter end, if Abraham Lincoln had destroyed an entire planet with a Death Star, just to make a point.

Anyway–what I want to ask the people tearing down Confederate monuments is this: why do you hate Luke Skywalker?

Are you sure you know which are the Good Guys and which are Bad? (Is there even such a thing, in war?)


I’ve noticed the anti-war types like to humanize both armies, when talking about a foreign war that’s currently going on…

Remember this video that went viral sometime last year?


A CIA agent declares the “everybody thinks they’re the good guys” and believes Americans need to quit oversimplifying the conflict in the Middle East.

Everybody cheered!  Yes, ISIS seems like it’s doing some bad stuff.  But they don’t believe it’s bad! They think they’re defending their families and countrymen from The Enemies…

So, I’m just wondering, why don’t we give the same benefit of the doubt to our perceived “enemies” in American history?

Everyone thinks they’re the good guys.


Everybody thinks they’re Luke Skywalker.

As the CIA agent in the video puts it:

“You ask anyone [in Iraq or Syria] and ask anybody why America dropped bombs, you’ll get, ‘They were waging war on Islam.’ And you walk in America and ask, ‘Why were we attacked on 9/11?’ and you get: ‘They hate us because we’re free.’

[But] those are stories manufactured by a really small number of people amassing a great deal of power and wealth by convincing the rest of us to keep killing each other.”

Again–keep in mind that this woman was praised for her balanced perspective and wisdom 12 months ago.  But something tells me she has lost some fans, now that the war is in our own back yard.

Can the KKK and BLM/Antifa appreciate this advice TODAY, which they probably were sharing with their Conservative friends, to defend Islam, back in 2016?

“The only way to disarm your enemies is to listen to them. If you hear them out, if you’re really brave enough to listen to their story, you can see that, more often than not, you might have made some of the same choices if you lived their life instead of yours.”

Hmmm… we disarm our enemies with empathy and reasonableness?

…so not by doubling down on identity politics?

…not with pepper spray and pee-filled balloons?

…not by tearing down the monuments of their heroes?



There are a lot of similarities between what the Freedom Fighters of today are saying, and what Jefferson Davis (President of the Confederacy) said years ago:

“I worked night and day for twelve years to prevent the war, but I could not. The North was mad and blind, would not let us govern ourselves, and so the war came.”

Violence is necessary, for a good cause.

It’s just a little hiccup that everyone thinks the good cause is theirs…

All of us are encouraged by the rally cry of Bail Organa, when he declared rebellion toward the Galactic Empire:

“We agree that the time for diplomacy and politics has passed. It is now time for action… Therefore let this be an official declaration of rebellion! Today, we all vow to change the galaxy, and one day the galaxy will indeed be free!”

It’s inspiring isn’t it! We Rebels, standing for the Truth!

I believe the divisions between Good Guy and Bad Guy are pretty obvious, and that my perspective on history is the right one.

But that’s not really surprising, is it?

Everyone thinks they’re Luke Skywalker…even as they tear down Skywalkers of the past.

(*See Comments for additional quote*)

Changing My Stance on Racism

Just yesterday, I told somebody “I don’t deny individual instances of racism happen. I deny the problem is ‘systemic.'”

But–this morning–I realized I needed to walk that back. I’m changing my mind, very much the way I changed my mind about gay marriage back in 2013. I never want to become too stuck in my ways to accept a shift in perspective, when it’s necessary.

So, I must admit I was wrong yesterday, when I said, “Blacks feel oppressed–not because there’s a racist system in place…”

I’ve come to connect the dots and understand there IS a racist system causing harm to the Black Community.

And it’s known as “The Public Education System.”

What I should have said yesterday was, “Blacks feel oppressed because of the racist system which is in place.” That’s not to say I believe the KKK controls education and politics. Nor do I believe the “system” was built on hate.

Quite the opposite: I think the System is made of people who at least say they want to help. They’re the “good guys.”

(Although, I’m sure there are some hateful, conniving people who know full-well that the identity curriculum being pushed in public education has negative effects on minorities, and they do it anyway.)

Liberal blacks feel oppression because they’ve been systematically taught to internalize victimhood.

When your teachers, parents, and professors tell you, “Life is harder for you than for that white boy,” it’s not easy to overcome and be successful!

On the other hand, Conservative blacks feel oppressed because–though they escaped from the social brainwashing themselves and are relatively successful in business and family life–they suffer as victims of their mindless classmates who DID succumb to the lies and now react with hate toward free-thinking minorities.

Want an example? Check out this video from a Conservative black woman:

And then check out some of the comments!

“She is speaking against her own race like the ‘coon’ she is. But if she were to make any valid points speaking for black people she would still be that “nigger” in white people’s eyes…”

8.18.17 Racist Black person

“[White people] are looking for someone to confirm their racism.”

8.18.17 Racist Black person (#3)

“There are black people in here who are kissing her ass because [they’re] playing into coonery.”

8.18.17 Racist Black person (#2)

And just one more person suggesting certain opinions are “white” and others “black” (even though someone tried to correct him)…

8.18.17 Racist Black person (#4)

For the record, there were LOTS of positive comments from people who agreed with the way this woman called out the stupid extremism on BOTH sides of the culture war. (That includes many black men and women who thanked her for saying what she did.)

But there were many more comments like the ones I took pictures of as well.

I thought about editing the names and profile pictures of the racists, but then I decided not to. Evil prejudice must be exposed.

And what’s that? You don’t think black people can be “racist?”

Where did you learn that, I wonder?

State high school or State college?

The woman in the video above says, “As an African-American woman, I’m afraid of two things: the education system and the prison system.”

And, that’s when it clicked for me. YES, I’m afraid of the power of the education system, too.


Because it has contributed (rapidly) to a culture where it’s okay to divide people up by skin color, as long as you agree with the herd. (Otherwise you’re a “coon.”)

In our brave new world, a growing number of people are swallowing a “progressive” racism and thinking it’s good.

Just consider how far we’ve come from the message of the Civil Rights Era.

We’ve gone from, “I believe there is only one race–the human race.” (Rosa Parks)

…to “People who don’t see race are erasing black people.” (Rebecca Carroll, Guardian contributor)

Years ago, Martin Luther King Junior said:

“I have a dream that one day my four children will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.”

Today’s activists say:

“Progressive movements…have made some unfortunate errors when they push for unity [among races] at the expense of really understanding the concrete differences…” (Black Lives Matter Founder, Alicia Garcia)

In the 70’s, 80’s, and even early 90’s, society mainly agreed that people who were obsessed with race were “shallow” and needed to have their minds changed.

And now? The “intellectuals” are pushing this idea that “colorblindess” is a form of racism. They literally argue that you’re in need of a mind-change if you DON’T see color everywhere, the way they do.

How can that happen in such a short amount of time?

How can the racists actually believe they are the good guys?


…I have a theory…

We are a society completely awash in propaganda.

And, if we send our children to school to learn HOW to think, and they come home repeating WHAT the government decides they should think instead, what hope do they have?

If you’re a young, black American being told from Kindergarten that you’re probably going to get shot by a police officer soon, how will it shape you?

If you’re a young, white American, being told your duty as a good person is to think about your black friend’s blackness all the time, what happens over time?

If ALL of the students are being coached to believe that meditating on the various “differences” between them is healthy (and, indeed, focusing on what unites us is the same as “erasing black people”), what are we doing to our children?

If there’s systemic racism in this country–and I think there is–then THAT has to be it.

(Post Script: Americans are also educated to see “privilege” as a negative. That’s part of the reason some members of the black community are worried about “sounding white.” You can CLICK HERE to read my post about how to avoid raising “privileged” kids. It describes in more detail the cultural education my generation has absorbed.

Why Black Lives Matter™ Isn’t Christian

There was a lively discussion on my Facebook page yesterday, about which of the two violent gangs who beat the crap out of each other over the weekend was “really” responsible for the brawling.

I wasn’t convinced that whoever is the first to use a car as a weapon should be held “more responsible” than those who brought their fists, urine-filled balloons, and mace to the fight before that.  Instead, I tend to agree with what the President has implied a few times: there’s no reason to choose sides between violent Fascists and violent Communists.

All of them are anti-American.

But, are they anti-Christian?

We seem to have no trouble calling out the KKK for being anti-Christian, despite the claims in its official platform:

“We have staked the future of all of our political institutions…upon the capacity of each and all of us to govern ourselves to control ourselves to sustain ourselves according to the Ten Commandments of God.

Though the KKK manifesto and spokespeople regularly make reference to God and Christianity, pretty much everybody else in the country sees the truth. It’s a fringe group of racist psychos, founded by David Duke.

Repeatedly watching how they behave in public has helped we discerning Americans come to this conclusion.

But how many of us know (and are willing to state clearly) that #BlackLivesMatter also is a fringe group of racist psychos, founded by Alicia Garcia, Patrisse Cullors, and Opal Tometi?

If we’re going to compare two, grassroots, social clubs–then let’s compare them as apples and apples. Let’s compare what each club says about itself.

From (one of) the KKK websites:

  • [We] recognize that America was founded as a White nation. America was born as an extension of White European heritage… All of the early laws of the United States, from its very inception, restricted citizenship to White people and all of the early charters, laws, compacts, etc were signed into effect by White people.

  • [We] Actively promote love and appreciation of our unique European (White) culture. We must recognize it as the bedrock of American liberty and self government.

Now compare and contrast that with the #BlackLivesMatter “Herstory” page (that’s “history” in feminine language. Get it?):

“Progressive movements in the United States have made some unfortunate errors when they push for unity at the expense of really understanding the concrete differences [between identity groups] in context, experience and oppression… [They use the] worn out and sloppy practice of drawing lazy parallels of unity between peoples with vastly different experiences and histories.

And from BLM’s “Guiding Principles” page:

“We are unapologetically Black in our positioning. In affirming that Black Lives Matter, we need not qualify our position. To love and desire freedom and justice for ourselves is a necessary prerequisite for wanting the same for others.”

To describe this group as a generic collection of citizens who are “pro-equality” or “anti-hate” is to be overly-simplistic.  

In fact, anyone who reduces the BLM campaign to a push for “equality” goes explicitly against what the founders have asked from their allies.

That is, they see themselves as a movement for queer, black women. And anyone who tries to shape the organization into something else is guilty of stealing the work they’ve done.

Read for yourself, under the heading “The Theft of Black Women’s Work”:

“Straight men, unintentionally or intentionally, have taken the work of queer Black women and erased our contributions. Perhaps if we were the charismatic Black men many are rallying around these days, it would have been a different story, but being Black queer women in this society (and apparently within these movements) tends to equal invisibility and non-relevancy.”

Further down in the document, they say:


“…Black Lives Matter is a unique contribution that goes beyond extrajudicial killings of Black people by police and vigilantes.  It goes beyond…keeping straight cis Black men in the front of the movement… It centers those that have been marginalized within Black liberation movements.  It is a tactic to (re)build the Black liberation movement.”


When we let the organizations speak for themselves, we can see how they are different or alike.

The campaign known as Black Lives Matter can’t be compared consistently to a whole religion–like Christianity–because it’s not a religion. Intead, it must be compared to individual churches, businesses, and organizations, which claim to be founded on Christian principles.

Like Westboro Baptist.

(Westboro Baptist was founded in 1955 by Fred Phelps.)

Also, we can’t compare the #BlackLivesMatter organization with the Pro-Life movement as a whole–because it’s not the “Pro-Black” movement. Instead, we must compare the sub-group to other (supposedly Pro-Life) sub-groups.

Like the We Love Babies Pregnancy Center, that regularly throws pee-balloons at abortionists.

(I made that up, obviously, because I’m having trouble coming up with a real pregnancy center or other pro-life non-profit, known for its hatred and violence. But let me know if you have an example.)

The NAACP isn’t known for its violence.  The Black Youth Project isn’t known for its violence. (Although I disagree with much of the philosophy buried deep within both of those, as well.)  They make the same claim to be “against hate” as Black Lives Matter or Antifa, but they’re not directly linked to every riot in recent memory–like BLM and Antifa are.

The NAACP and BYP are wrong about a lot of things. But they’re not hate groups, like #BlackLivesMatter.


Groups and businesses that branch off a Mother Ideology begin to form reputations based on individual merits. 

Both the KKK and BLM use code words in their official platforms, which reveal their core socialist values…

Both groups will claim they are all about self-love, when it suits them.  But when they get specific, their racist assumptions are revealed…

Both groups believe their racism (and often violence) are justified, because of the lies they’ve swallowed.

The KKK believes America is being stolen from “White People.” And BLM believes they are being systematically hunted down by the racist “State.”

But BOTH believe it’s possible to divide humans by color in order to determine their histories, their shared values, and their current needs. BOTH believe there are huge differences among ethnicities.

They’re not Christian.

And they share equally the asinine violence that took place over the weekend, because neither is on the side of Truth.

Case Study: You Don’t Speak for Me

Found this handy little “Syllabus for White People to Educate Themselves”:


I realize there are white people who will enjoy working their way down that list, brainwashing themselves, as instructed.  (It reminds me of Christians who really enjoy a good, convicting sermon from a toe-stomping preacher. Some white people just love the chance to shout “Ouch and amen!” whenever someone says, “You just don’t understand…let me tell you what to think.”)

But, some of us still have a sense of skepticism when a person we don’t know sets themselves up as an authority and claims they’re going to “educate” us…

If you read the introduction of the “syllabus,” there’s no need to go further. This is the most important part:

“We need to be thinking about how we are thinking about this election. This sense of comfort, of insulation from the horrors of America, is precisely what this syllabus is meant to disrupt. We, white people, clearly weren’t listening hard enough to people of color, to women, to queer people, to immigrants, to Muslims, to anyone who holds a marginalized identity…[when we voted for Trump]”

Hey, how about that?

I’m a woman, so I made the list!

I agree–people should listen to me more!

And, though I didn’t vote for Trump, I’m willing to bet the several million blacks, Hispanics, and queer people who DID pick him over Clinton feel the same way I do.

Anyone who’s interested can click here to read my post “You Don’t Speak For Me”

Then, perhaps, be inspired to tell whoever wrote this syllabus to step off their unearned soapbox and quit pushing the narrative that all members of groups he listed are as fear-wracked and victim-minded as liberals wish…

I’ll go first:

(*clears throat*)

Please take “women” off your list, because not all of us think the same way. To imply we do–and that you’re speaking for the group–is misguided at best. And when you claim it’s important for “white people” to listen to “women” (when we all know you mean only listen to CERTAIN women), it just annoys those of us who aren’t mesmerized by your pretty, Activist buzzwords.

Some of us get the sense we’re being used as tools, so you can feel like a great, compassionate and-totally-not-misogynist Defender of Our Feelings and get likes on Facebook…

But, regardless of your motives, the assumptions you make are harmful, and you don’t speak for me. 

Are there any Conservative People of Color or LGBT folks, who hate identity politics, and want to say the same?

Run! Hide! From Suicide!

I know lots of people using Sarahah–the new app which allows you to receive anonymous notes and comments from friends.

Personally, I receive enough anonymous (or semi-anonymous) comments while blogging. So, I haven’t jumped on this bandwagon, yet.

But I definitely don’t agree with this guy, who is against anyone using the app at all:

I don’t know whether Ryan Christopher is going to leave his post up for the rest of eternity. So, let me just pull out some of the most interesting quotes, for posterity, in case my link ends up being broken:

“I remember my highschool abusing a site called Formspring to tease a girl. I remember the anonymous messages escalating to pervasive harassment…”

“These sites are dangerous. Minds are vulnerable, especially for those who are already struggling with self-esteem.”

“Sarahah opens doors to cyberbullying, and from there, it’s undetermined…”

“Even if you are strong enough to withstand a possibly cruel message, know that others may not have your resilience…”


I’m sorry, but the more I read that, the more ludicrous it becomes to me.

We actually believe there are people out there who can’t learn to ignore mean comments?  And then they’ll HAVE to kill themselves?

I mean, if this is such a big problem, maybe we should stop buying pens and paper, too!

Someone could leave a mean, anonymous post-it on your car!


Readers, please listen to this:

Running and hiding from bullies is NOT a solution for “vulnerable minds.”

I’m not just saying it’s difficult to protect our weak friends from mean lies; I’m saying it’s completely impossible.

Here it is again, in different words:

If you’re worried about people around you having “vulnerable minds,” you can’t waste time trying to make the world safer for them. 

Instead, you must prepare their minds for the world!


Sarahah isn’t dangerous.

At least, not any more dangerous than a postcard, which could just as easily be used to injure someone who’s “struggling with self-esteem.” But, if we can’t exist with postcards around, doesn’t that point to a bigger problem?

I think the truly dangerous thing is a culture that keeps telling us certain people are unable to cope with mean lies, because of “undetermined” circumstances…

They’re just vulnerable, and they always will be.

They have no choice but to internalize the lies and probably kill themselves…

Make no mistake, Reader, THAT IS ACTUALLY THE DEADLY LIE, contributing to suicide culture.

Disguised as something compassionate and supportive, Ryan Christopher’s warning about Sarahah actually dis-empowers those who are being bullied and keeps them vulnerable, rather than teaching them the secret of dealing with negative comments in a healthy manner.

Am I making sense here???

Where’s the College Course on Jackass Discrimination?

Apparently, “The field of Fat Studies has undergone tremendous growth in recent years…” according to Patti Lou-Watkins, professor at Oregon State.  (*snort*)  (Yes, she completely missed her own pun.)
You can read some more quotes from her in this article, including these enlightened statements:

“…as the ‘War on Obesity’ has escalated, so has weight-based bias and discrimination.”

“…weight bias is particularly evident among healthcare professionals, compromising the well-being of their patients.”

…“My course now frames body image disturbances more as a function of oppressive societal structures than of individual pathology.”

That’s all fine and dandy.
But do you know which group deals with a lot of discrimination, which NOBODY is talking about???
Mean people.
It’s really a shame the way we discriminate against people who treat us like crap.
Rude people should be able to treat others however they want, without being judged.
I mean, we already know that we discriminate against people whose brains don’t work properly. (#EndTheStigma)
And we’re aware that we discriminate against people who don’t take care of their health. (#FatAcceptance)
But we also discriminate against people who are mean and nasty! The difference is, we don’t have a hashtag for that!  
There’s no college course to help students understand the dangers of marginalizing someone just because they make our lives miserable.
I think we should call this “Attitudism.” (It’s just like racism or sexism or “weightism.”)
If you’ve ever called someone a jerk, you’re microagressing People of Attitude.
Just consider these haunting facts:
#1. Mean people are probably ten times as likely as nice people to have ZERO friends! That’s inequality.
#2.  There aren’t any official studies confirming Mean Bias and Attitudism, because nobody will do the research! (Talk about discrimination!)
#3. If you Google “Rude People,” every, single article will assume that being “rude” is negative, which reinforces the stereotype and further marginalizes People of Attitude.
This has got to stop!
Let’s educate the rest of society and quit perpetuating the myth that having a bad attitude makes you a bad person… mmmmkay?
End Attitude Privilege Now!

Can’t Spoil a Baby?

I’ve heard from many Pop-Parenting Gurus that you can’t spoil a baby…


(I agree, for the record, that you can’t “love” a baby too much.)

But, if there’s no such thing as a spoiled baby, is there really such thing as a spoiled child, either?  Or a spoiled teenager?

And, if we can agree it IS possible for young humans to learn bad habits from their over-indulgent parents, then at what age do we magically change from Unspoilable Babies into Spoilable Kids?


Once again.  I agree.  The problem isn’t “too much love.”

But spoiled children exist, and I’ll tell you how they get that way…

We spoil children when we repeatedly do things for them which they should be learning to do for themselves. Over time, this teaches them not only that Mom and Dad can be trusted to meet their needs–but ALSO Mom and Dad will bend over backwards to grant their “wants” as well.

So, yes, spoiling can include picking up a baby every, single time it cries.

This is especially true if the parent can’t tell the difference between a baby with an immediate need and a baby who is fed/clean/uninjured and simply mildly inconvenienced by something, such as a big sibling who is injured and stealing some of baby’s 24-hour lap-sitting time…

That’s not to say all so-called “attachment parents” are spoiling their children by “loving them.”

It’s to say that SOME so-called attachment parents are spoiling their children by confusing “love” with “jumping when told.”